He might be crushing on you super hard and now has taken to following you around. He is so smitten with you that he wants to be around you whenever he can. He wants to get close to you! Make sure there is no aggressive or weird behavior before checking this off as the reason why a guy follows you around.
Is he leaving you cute notes? Does he try to include himself in conversation with you or your friends? These are pretty harmless behaviors. He really just wants to find a way to connect with you. We know this might sound weird, but he actually may not be following you at all.
You might have been just catching glimpses of him at the wrong time! This happens often when two people share a small space. Like offices or schools! He may actually not even realize that you two are always in the same place. He might take the same route as you to the lunchroom or the bathroom.
Or he might have the same breaks as you. Moving on to another option may especially be necessary if the person is walking in the middle of the sidewalk. Seriously people, stop doing that. Failing that, I may choose to walk the other way around a block, especially if I need to eventually go over a block, anyway. In situations where they exist, switching to a parallel footpath or one that otherwise also goes in roughly the desired direction of travel to pass also works.
If it's been a while and none of the above have been options or appear likely to be options soon, if the traffic is very light and can be seen from far enough away, I may step out a bit into the road, pass there at a comfortable distance, and then get back onto the sidewalk once I'm well clear of the person I was walking behind. This option works best on streets that have parallel parking spots along the edge which are not presently occupied, as I can walk through the parking spots without actually getting into the traffic lane.
And, it should go without saying, but, obviously, this option requires exercising common sense and not stepping out randomly into a busy street. I'm talking mainly about alleys and side streets here, not situations where there's traffic. If none of the above are presently options, I slow down and keep some distance behind the other person and hope one of the above eventually becomes an option. Regardless of which, if any, of the above options are being employed, obviously, don't stare at the person or otherwise make it look like you're paying attention to them.
If stuck for a while behind them, aside from the slower pace, I'd normally recommend acting like you'd otherwise be doing if you weren't behind them. Don't do anything that makes it look like you're trying to hide or paying close attention to the person in front of you.
If you're a tourist, this is one of the few situations where it can be helpful to look obviously like a tourist. Stopping to take pictures of a notable landmark obviously, one that is off to the side, not in the direction of the person in front of you can serve both to make it obvious that you're a harmless tourist and also simultaneously give you a non-suspicious reason to stop and let the person get some distance ahead of you.
If you happen to have a map, stopping to look at that can serve the same purpose for the same reasons. Of course, I'd not recommend this option if there's another potentially-creepy person following you Another option that can work regardless of whether you're a tourist or not is to stop and check something on your phone e. Again, a non-suspicious excuse to stop and allow some distance to open while also signaling that you're not as likely to be a threat.
Finally, whether standing to wait or continuing to walk at a reasonable distance behind, calling someone and talking on the phone is another decent option to signal you're not a threat and not paying attention to the person in front of you.
I would not recommend Xen's suggestion of waving and smiling. If someone would do this to me in the dark night I would be scared to death.
Maybe it is something cultural I'm in western Europe but that makes me think the waving person might have a serious mental illness, which definitely not improves my feeling of safety. But I might think so even if it is not dark. As I was a twelve-year-old, a man who walked towards me pulled a knife out of his pocket and held it in direction of my face.
He grinned. He walked than almost every morning it was dark across my way to the train for about two or three months. The last time I saw him, he 'hugged' me and said 'Now I got you, now I got you. I was not able to go to school by myself afterwards so I finally told my parents and so they drove me to school for some time That is not the point.
I just want to say, I have some experience in fear of strangers passing by or walking behind me. I would strongly recommend, that no matter what, stay as far as you can from the other person.
If they walk in your direction, just slow down a bit. If you got to pass by, keep biggest distance between you as possible, maybe step a bit out of the sidewalk, just as reirab said.
And pass by as fast as you can to make the 'contact' short and painless do you say that in English? Avoid eye contact and do not turn your body in their direction, even try to signalize a 'defending' body language - that will be great.
Despite of that, be as normal as you can. The phone-suggestions would work fine. But for me whistling or humming would be very creepy as this fills my imagination with a thug walking behind me with a baseball bat in his hands And do not mind as much. I am a special case as I had some negative experience. Most people might not even think about you walking your way. Given that they're in front of you, travelling the same direction, then they must be turning around often to look.
As if you're waving at your local mail carrier or a senior. If they're so concerned that you're going to do something nefarious, then nothing you actually do will change their mind , anything could be a trick, and it's their responsibility to cross the street or go a different direction or walk in a circle or something if they feel they should.
You're not responsible for their perceived fears, and you honestly have no idea what they're really thinking anyway.
So just act normally, walk in a straight path, and if they do walk in a circle definitely don't follow them! If they really do think you're a criminal, they might even be dangerous to you. If leaving work, walk to one car then drive the other person to their car. Tell yourself that you need to think rationally to safely get out of your situation. If you must, count slowly to 10 in your head.
Panicking may result in you making rash decisions that could get you hurt. In addition, they might come back later and try to break in. Cross the street or turn. Use the first safe opportunity to cross the street or turn. Doing this will make it harder for the person to follow you.
Ultimately, you might get lucky and lose them around a building, in a crowd, or behind other cars. Stop frequently at unexpected places.
Visit a friend who is working. Run an errand at a major retail store. Go to an area with a lot of people. By driving or walking in an area with a lot of people, you may be able to lose the person. In addition, the person may be less likely to hurt or rob you in front of other people. Consider walking into a food court, major retail store, or some sort of entertainment event. Run or drive away quickly. As a last resort, you may want to run or drive away quickly.
Leave yourself room to drive around the car in front of you. Avoid walking down any corridors, alleyways, or streets where there are only one or two ways in or out.
The more open the street, the easier it will be for you to get to safety. Method 3. The best-case scenario is that they just wanted to rob you and not hurt you. There is no good reason to put yourself in danger for some money or a piece of jewelry. Learn self-defense. Sign up with for a self-defense class. In these classes, instructors will teach you ways to defend yourself against attackers. Some common moves include kicking the assailant in the groin, striking them in the face with your open hand, or block their attack with your arm and then hit them back.
Remember, physically defending yourself could increase the chance that you are injured during a robbery or another type of assault. Cooperate with them. Listen to what they say instead of talking. Do what the person instructs you to do. This is especially true if the person is threatening you with a weapon like a knife or a gun. However, you should still stay in your locked car until policemen are outside with you. If there is no police station nearby, continue driving through busy streets until the cops can meet you.
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